To worry is to feel tense about the future

To worry is to feel tense about the future – immediate or distant. At its most intense, worry qualifies as an emotional disturbance often called Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) that at some point afflicts about 5% adults. Lesser degrees of worry are, however, present in almost every person. The point remains that, although a universal experience, worrying can cause much distress and so, we must try to understand worry and deal with it. What causes worry? Sometimes the trigger is a catastrophic event. Many people who experienced the Great Depression or the Holocaust could never overcome their fear of future uncertainties. Domineering or demanding parents play a role too. The children then develop the sense that they have no control over their world and must always be wary about what might happen to them. Sometimes, if children are thrust too soon into adult roles, they may worry. Does worrying help? No. It does not prepare us for the real world. In fact, when we panic, our brain does not function properly. Moreover, worry can prevent the body from reacting flexibly to stresses in the environment. So, what should we do to avoid worry? The following steps might help: 1. Write down what is worrying you:If you write down what is worrying you, you will see that most of it can be dealt with. Putting it in writing often helps us see the problem clearly, which makes it easier to look for solutions. 2. 15 minutes of worry-vaccination:Everyday, spend about 15 minutes thinking about the things that worry you and look carefully at the list you have written down. Then consider each item of worry as a problem that can be solved sooner or later, and not as a hopeless situation. Remember, how you look at a problem is very important. 3. Worry-free time: The rest of the day, consciously make an effort to be free of worry. Focus on the positive in your life, the happiness and love you are getting as well as giving. 4. Your answer should be written down: When your mind suggests a solution (it often does) to a problem, write it down immediately, before it vanishes from your thought-process. 5. Weekly evaluation: Every weekend, keep aside about 30 minutes evaluating how much you have progressed in finding solutions to your problems. 6. Trust life and your experiences: Trust this beautiful, often mysterious, series of experiences collectively called life. Life gives us the answers, shows us the way. But we have to be patient and hopeful. 7. Invest in yourself: The more you invest in yourself: your happiness and your development, the easier it will be for you to solve your problems. Wear the colour you like, interact with people who make you feel good, hold on to your dreams. These help in building up self-confidence which in turn makes you optimistic about the future. Thus, you will minimize worry. 8. The higher-power: Believe that there is a power higher than humankind. It is that power which controls the cosmic laws of life and death, of deeds and consequences. If you can have faith in the benevolence of that higher power I call GOD, there will not be much cause to worry, no matter what you are going through.

for Peace of Mind..

10 principles for Peace of Mind.. 1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace. 2. Forgive And Forget: This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving. 3. Do Not Crave For Recognition: This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely. 4. Do Not Be Jealous: We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind. 5. Change Yourself According To The Environment: If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious. 6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured: This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power. 7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew: This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind. 8. Meditate Regularly: Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time. 9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant: An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile . Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name. 10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret: Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?

Respect every boy/man in your life.

I think everyone might have read abt Mom's, Wife's and Girl's...

Its time to learn something abt Men...

A boy/man  is one of the most beautiful creations of God.

He starts compromising at very tender age. He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister.

     

Later he sacrifices his love for just a smile on his parents face. He sacrifices his love for his wife and children by working late nights.

He builds their future by taking loans from banks and then repaying them for the life time. Thus he sacrifices full youth for his wife and children without any complain.

   

Believe me he struggles a lot but still has to hear the music (scolding) of Mother, wife and his boss. Yet every mother, wife and boss tries to have control over him.

                                   

Finally his life ends up by compromising for others happiness. He is that creature of God who no one can compete with.

   

Respect every boy/man in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

 

Just extend your hand when he needs it

start your engines

Man is like an automobile

 

 

A MAN WITH NO BAD HABITS A man was waiting for a taxi. A beggar came along and asked him for some money. The man ignored him. But being a professional, the beggar kept on pestering him. The man became irritated when he realized that the beggar would not leave him alone unless he parts with some money. Suddenly an idea struck him.

He told the beggar, "I do not have money, but if you tell me what you want to do with the money, I will certainly help you." "I would have bought a cup of tea", replied the beggar. The man said, "Sorry man. I can offer you a cigarette instead of tea". He then took a pack of cigarettes from his pocket and offered one to the beggar. The beggar told, "I don't smoke as it is injurious to health."

The man smiled and took a bottle of whisky from his pocket and told the beggar, "Here, take this bottle and enjoy the stuff. It is really good". The beggar refused by saying, "Alcohol muddles the brain and damages the liver". The man smiled again.

He told the beggar, "I am going to the race course. Come with me and I will arrange for some tickets and we will place bets. If we win, you take the whole amount and leave me alone".
As before, the beggar politely refused the latest offer by saying, "Sorry sir, I can't come with you as betting on horses is a bad habit."

Suddenly the man felt relieved and asked the beggar to come to his home with him. Finally, the beggar's face lit up in anticipation of receiving at least something from the man. But he still had his doubts and asked the man, "Why do you want me to go to your house with you".

The man replied, "My wife always wanted to see how a man with no Bad habits looks like.

"மெடிக்கல் சீட்' : வசதி இல்லாமல் பரிதவிப்பு

விசைத்தறி தொழிலாளி மகனுக்கு "மெடிக்கல் சீட்' : வசதி இல்லாமல் பரிதவிப்பு

ராசிபுரம்:அரசு மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் படிக்க இடம் கிடைத்தும், போதிய வசதி இல்லாததால், விசைத்தறி கூலித் தொழிலாளியின், மாற்றுத்திறனாளி மகன், செய்வதறியாது தவிக்கிறார்.

நாமக்கல் மாவட்டம், ராசிபுரம் அடுத்த வெண்ணந்தூர் டவுன் பஞ்சாயத்துக்கு உட்பட்ட, 11வது வார்டு, அம்மன் கோவில் வீதியைச் சேர்ந்தவர் விசைத்தறி தொழிலாளி சுப்ரமணி (60). அவருக்கு, விஜயா என்ற மனைவி, செல்வி, மயில், ரத்னா என மூன்று மகள், கதிர்வேலு (18), கோபால் (15) என, இரு மகன்களும் உள்ளனர்.மூன்று மகள்களுக்கும் திருமணமாகி செட்டிலாகி விட்டனர். கடைசி மகன் கோபால், எஸ்.எஸ்.எல்.ஸி., படித்து வருகிறார். அதில், மாற்றுத்திறனாளியான கதிர்வேலு, வெண்ணந்தூர் அரசு மேல்நிலைப்பள்ளியில், ப்ளஸ் 2 படித்தார். மே மாதம் வெளியான ப்ளஸ் 2 அரசு பொதுத்தேர்வு முடிவில், கதிர்வேலு, 1,200க்கு, 1,158 மதிப்பெண் பெற்று, பள்ளியில் இரண்டாமிடமும், மாவட்ட அளவில் ஐந்தாமிடமும் பெற்றார்.

மருத்துவபடிப்புகான கவுன்சலிங், சென்னையில் நடந்தது. அதில், மாற்றுத்திறனாளிகள் பிரிவில், மதிப்பெண் அடிப்படையில், 198.25 கட்-ஆஃப் மதிப்பெண் பெற்று, மாநிலத்தில் முதலிடம் பிடித்து கதிர்வேலு சாதனை படைத்தார்.

அதை தொடர்ந்து, மாணவர் கதிர்வேலு, சென்னை ஸ்டான்லி மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியை தேர்வு செய்து, அங்கு சேர்ந்து படிக்க உள்ளார்.மருத்துவக் கல்லூரி விடுதியில் தங்கி படிக்க ஆண்டுக்கு, 50 ஆயிரம் ரூபாய் முதல், 60 ஆயிரம் ரூபாய் வரை செலவாகும். அதன்படி மருத்துவ படிப்பு முடிக்க, மூன்றரை லட்சம் ரூபாய் முதல் நான்கு லட்சம் ரூபாய் வரை செலவாகும்.அவ்வளவு பணம் செலவு செய்து படிக்க வைக்கும் நிலையில், மாணவர் கதிர்வேலின் குடும்ப சூழல் இடம் கொடுக்காத நிலை உள்ளது. கதிர்வேலுவின் தந்தை சுப்ரமணி, தன் மூன்று மகள்களையும் கடன் வாங்கி திருமணம் செய்து கொடுத்துள்ளார். அந்த கடனை கொஞ்சம் கொஞ்சமாக அடைத்து வருகிறார். அதனால், நல்ல மதிப்பெண் பெற்று, அரசு மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் இடம் கிடைத்தும், தனது மகனை படிக்க வைக்க முடியாத நிலையில் உள்ளார்.அரசு மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் இடம் கிடைத்தும், படிக்க உதவிக்கு ஏங்கும் விசைத்தறி கூலி தொழிலாளியின், மாற்றுத்திறனாளி மகன் கதிர்வேலுக்கு உதவி செய்ய விரும்புவோர், 73732 70574 என்ற மொபைல் எண்ணில் தொடர்பு கொள்ளலாம்.
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